Lend me your hope for awhile, I seem to have mislaid mine.
Lost and hopeless feelings accompany me daily, pain and confusion are my companions.
I know not where to turn; looking ahead to future times does not bring forth images of renewed hope.
I see troubled times, pain-filled days, and more tragedy.
Lend me your hope for awhile, I seem to have mislaid mine.
Hold my hand and hug me; listen to all my ramblings, recovery seems so far distant.
The road to healing seems like a long and lonely one.
Lend me your hope for awhile, I seem to have mislaid mine.
Stand by me, offer me your presence, your heart and your love.
Acknowledge my pain, it is so real and ever present.
I am overwhelmed with sad and conflicting thoughts.
Lend me your hope for awhile; a time will come when I will heal, and I will share my renewal, hope, and love with others
*Got this poem from an anynomous in my email, thanks.
Thursday, December 14, 2006
Thursday, November 30, 2006
A Great Man
Manhood is a difficult thing to accomplish.
In the past few months, I've had a number of female friends talk with me at length about their difficulty in 'finding a good man.' Indeed, this seems to be something that plagues most women I've met. On occasion I've heard similar sentiments echoed by men, but it's been rare - their problem is usually not being happy with the women they have.
On the surface, the search for a good man doesn't sound too difficult - women generally want someone who is funny, down-to-earth, who makes them feel like they're beautiful and fun to be around, and who is at least marginally attractive. There's a segment out there that feel material wealth is important (not sure whether this is due to their biological need for security) but by and large I don't find women to be that interested in money.
So why is the search for a good man so difficult? Are women just looking in the wrong places?
I don't think so. I tend to think that there is a significantly larger pool of talented, wonderful, fantastic women out there than there are men. I would submit that great men are in increasingly short supply.
Why is that? What defines a 'great man?' What are the characteristics and qualities that make a man one to be admired, respected?
When we think of great men, we often think of people like Michael Jordan or or Bill Gate or Steve Jobs. But we're referring to what these people represent, which isn't much - their great athleticism, their humanitarianism, their business instincts.
Think of the people you know, the men you talk to and interact with on a day-to-day basis. Do you know a man who you'd define as 'great?' What are the qualities you see in them? What makes them someone worth admiring or respecting?
I look into my life and find great men in extremely short supply. In my market workplace, I'm surrounded by men driven by power, status, and possessions. Men who think that a RM600 and above pair of jeans or a owning a branded watch which I have difficulties to pronounce it. They think that the value of their portfolios, or what they pay in rent, or how much they spent on alcohol last night is interesting conversation. They truly believe that if otherwise, they won't stand a chance with the girl of their dreams. They think that by rising to the head. They will be happy, healthy, respected and loved.
Some spending weekend after weekend at the same pub or bars, with two goals for the evening - meet and charm a beautiful girl with their stories of past glory, and make the best penis joke.
I'm making gross generalizations, and I understand that. Guys, no offence! But I have story after story of women who can't find a guy worthwhile. The men they meet seem nice enough, but underneath the surface lies a string of extremely common problems - ego, greed, envy, guilt, anger, bitterness, and messed-up priorities. These guys routinely make their women feel ugly, stupid, useless, unworthy of being loved.
Some may argue that a great man is a very difficult thing to define, but I don't think it is.
A great man is honest - with others, with himself. He isn't afraid to point out his flaws, but confronts them openly. He lets you know that he is bruised and broken, just like we all are - and lets you know that it's okay.
A great man is outgoing - not in a life insurance sales person kind of way, but in a "I like getting to know people, because I appreciate that they have something extremely special and compelling about them" kind of way. They make you feel like you are the most important person in the room, because to them you actually are.
A great man loves variety - they cherish new experiences and surroundings. They constantly look for ways to stretch themselves, to learn things they didn't know before, to see things that they haven't seen before. They aren't afraid to challenge who they are and what they believe in.
A great man has a sense of humor - they recognize that laughter is one of humanity's greatest gifts. Their jokes are kind, sincere, and heartfelt in such not meant to cut someone else down but to make everyone around them feel good.
A great man loves creativity for its own sake - they're able to appreciate a painting or piece of architecture or the accomplishments of a business without envy. They love that things exist, and care not who it was that made it.
A great man is generous - with his time, his money, his attention, his energy. He recognizes that the things that remain in this world have nothing to do with the cars or the houses or the jeans, but rather with the time spent with others, the charities granted to those who need it, the personal conversations had with hurting friends.
A great man cherishes their friends and family - they develop close relationships with people and go out of their way to make their loved ones actually feel that love. They call often, visit often and actively try to make those close to them feel special.
A great man loves women, but in a different kind of way. They look at women as the pinnacle of creation - beautiful, intelligent, soft, loving, emotionally-connected in a way they never can be, nurturing, and in most ways their superior. They don't belittle them, don't try to puff themselves up at the woman's expense, would never think of hurting them. They understand that a woman wants to be wrapped up in an adventure, wants to be treated as the beautiful creation that they are, and wants to be reminded constantly of how utterly unique and perfect they are. Their eyes don't wander, their hearts don't covet what is not theirs, and they feel extremely blessed to have the women that they have.
A great man believes they are part of a plan, that they are put on this earth for a reason, to play a part in a story. They aren't afraid to tell others about that story, aren't afraid to pass up opportunities because of that story, aren't afraid to suffer because of that story. Their belief in that story does not make them weak, but it does make them patient, humble, kind-hearted, generous and self-controlled. It gives them a heart unafraid to love unconditionally and regardless of reciprocity. It makes them able to stand up to injustice, makes them able to recognize when they've screwed up, makes them confident that their lives are headed somewhere. It gives them a heart full of love, because they already know that they receive love to a degree they could never fully appreciate or understand. They see people not as evil, but as broken, hurt, missing a piece of their hearts. And they live each day hoping to help people find that missing piece, to let them know that regardless of what happens in this fast-paced, McDonalds and High-speed broadband and television world, that they are loved - by the great man, and by the great man's Father.
This kind of man can't help but be respected, admired - and ironically this kind of man couldn't care less about having such respect or admiration. This kind of man is rare indeed - this kind of man would change our world, our companies, our governments, our relationships.
I wish there were more men like this - I wish I will and be like this myself.
*friendly smug
In the past few months, I've had a number of female friends talk with me at length about their difficulty in 'finding a good man.' Indeed, this seems to be something that plagues most women I've met. On occasion I've heard similar sentiments echoed by men, but it's been rare - their problem is usually not being happy with the women they have.
On the surface, the search for a good man doesn't sound too difficult - women generally want someone who is funny, down-to-earth, who makes them feel like they're beautiful and fun to be around, and who is at least marginally attractive. There's a segment out there that feel material wealth is important (not sure whether this is due to their biological need for security) but by and large I don't find women to be that interested in money.
So why is the search for a good man so difficult? Are women just looking in the wrong places?
I don't think so. I tend to think that there is a significantly larger pool of talented, wonderful, fantastic women out there than there are men. I would submit that great men are in increasingly short supply.
Why is that? What defines a 'great man?' What are the characteristics and qualities that make a man one to be admired, respected?
When we think of great men, we often think of people like Michael Jordan or or Bill Gate or Steve Jobs. But we're referring to what these people represent, which isn't much - their great athleticism, their humanitarianism, their business instincts.
Think of the people you know, the men you talk to and interact with on a day-to-day basis. Do you know a man who you'd define as 'great?' What are the qualities you see in them? What makes them someone worth admiring or respecting?
I look into my life and find great men in extremely short supply. In my market workplace, I'm surrounded by men driven by power, status, and possessions. Men who think that a RM600 and above pair of jeans or a owning a branded watch which I have difficulties to pronounce it. They think that the value of their portfolios, or what they pay in rent, or how much they spent on alcohol last night is interesting conversation. They truly believe that if otherwise, they won't stand a chance with the girl of their dreams. They think that by rising to the head. They will be happy, healthy, respected and loved.
Some spending weekend after weekend at the same pub or bars, with two goals for the evening - meet and charm a beautiful girl with their stories of past glory, and make the best penis joke.
I'm making gross generalizations, and I understand that. Guys, no offence! But I have story after story of women who can't find a guy worthwhile. The men they meet seem nice enough, but underneath the surface lies a string of extremely common problems - ego, greed, envy, guilt, anger, bitterness, and messed-up priorities. These guys routinely make their women feel ugly, stupid, useless, unworthy of being loved.
Some may argue that a great man is a very difficult thing to define, but I don't think it is.
A great man is honest - with others, with himself. He isn't afraid to point out his flaws, but confronts them openly. He lets you know that he is bruised and broken, just like we all are - and lets you know that it's okay.
A great man is outgoing - not in a life insurance sales person kind of way, but in a "I like getting to know people, because I appreciate that they have something extremely special and compelling about them" kind of way. They make you feel like you are the most important person in the room, because to them you actually are.
A great man loves variety - they cherish new experiences and surroundings. They constantly look for ways to stretch themselves, to learn things they didn't know before, to see things that they haven't seen before. They aren't afraid to challenge who they are and what they believe in.
A great man has a sense of humor - they recognize that laughter is one of humanity's greatest gifts. Their jokes are kind, sincere, and heartfelt in such not meant to cut someone else down but to make everyone around them feel good.
A great man loves creativity for its own sake - they're able to appreciate a painting or piece of architecture or the accomplishments of a business without envy. They love that things exist, and care not who it was that made it.
A great man is generous - with his time, his money, his attention, his energy. He recognizes that the things that remain in this world have nothing to do with the cars or the houses or the jeans, but rather with the time spent with others, the charities granted to those who need it, the personal conversations had with hurting friends.
A great man cherishes their friends and family - they develop close relationships with people and go out of their way to make their loved ones actually feel that love. They call often, visit often and actively try to make those close to them feel special.
A great man loves women, but in a different kind of way. They look at women as the pinnacle of creation - beautiful, intelligent, soft, loving, emotionally-connected in a way they never can be, nurturing, and in most ways their superior. They don't belittle them, don't try to puff themselves up at the woman's expense, would never think of hurting them. They understand that a woman wants to be wrapped up in an adventure, wants to be treated as the beautiful creation that they are, and wants to be reminded constantly of how utterly unique and perfect they are. Their eyes don't wander, their hearts don't covet what is not theirs, and they feel extremely blessed to have the women that they have.
A great man believes they are part of a plan, that they are put on this earth for a reason, to play a part in a story. They aren't afraid to tell others about that story, aren't afraid to pass up opportunities because of that story, aren't afraid to suffer because of that story. Their belief in that story does not make them weak, but it does make them patient, humble, kind-hearted, generous and self-controlled. It gives them a heart unafraid to love unconditionally and regardless of reciprocity. It makes them able to stand up to injustice, makes them able to recognize when they've screwed up, makes them confident that their lives are headed somewhere. It gives them a heart full of love, because they already know that they receive love to a degree they could never fully appreciate or understand. They see people not as evil, but as broken, hurt, missing a piece of their hearts. And they live each day hoping to help people find that missing piece, to let them know that regardless of what happens in this fast-paced, McDonalds and High-speed broadband and television world, that they are loved - by the great man, and by the great man's Father.
This kind of man can't help but be respected, admired - and ironically this kind of man couldn't care less about having such respect or admiration. This kind of man is rare indeed - this kind of man would change our world, our companies, our governments, our relationships.
I wish there were more men like this - I wish I will and be like this myself.
*friendly smug
Tuesday, November 14, 2006
LEARNING TO BREATHE
Hello, good morning, how ya do?
What makes your rising sun so new?
I could use a fresh beginning too
All of my regrets are nothing new
So this is the way
that I say that I need You
This is the way
This is the way
That I'm learning to breathe
I'm learning to crawl
I'm finding that You and
You alone can break my fall
I'm living again, awake and alive
I'm dying to breathe in these abundant skies
Hello, good morning, how ya been?
Yesterday left my head kicked in
I never thought I could fall like that
Never knew that I could hurt this bad
I'm learning to breathe
I'm learning to crawl
I'm finding that You and
You alone can break my fall
I'm living again, awake and alive
I'm dying to breathe in these abundant skies
So this is the way
that I say that I need You
This is the way
That I say I love You
This is the way
That I say I'm Yours
This is the way
This is the way
-SWITCHFOOT-
What makes your rising sun so new?
I could use a fresh beginning too
All of my regrets are nothing new
So this is the way
that I say that I need You
This is the way
This is the way
That I'm learning to breathe
I'm learning to crawl
I'm finding that You and
You alone can break my fall
I'm living again, awake and alive
I'm dying to breathe in these abundant skies
Hello, good morning, how ya been?
Yesterday left my head kicked in
I never thought I could fall like that
Never knew that I could hurt this bad
I'm learning to breathe
I'm learning to crawl
I'm finding that You and
You alone can break my fall
I'm living again, awake and alive
I'm dying to breathe in these abundant skies
So this is the way
that I say that I need You
This is the way
That I say I love You
This is the way
That I say I'm Yours
This is the way
This is the way
-SWITCHFOOT-
Friday, November 03, 2006
Hungry
Hungry, I come to you
For I know You satisfy
I am empty,
but I know Your love does not run dry
So I wait for you ...... So I wait for You.....
I’m falling on my knees
Offering all of me
Jesus, You’re all this heart is living for
Broken, I run to You
For Your arms are open wide
I am weary,
but I know Your touch restores my life
So I wait for you.... So I wait for You.....
I’m falling on my knees
Offering all of me
Jesus, You’re all this heart is living for.....
For I know You satisfy
I am empty,
but I know Your love does not run dry
So I wait for you ...... So I wait for You.....
I’m falling on my knees
Offering all of me
Jesus, You’re all this heart is living for
Broken, I run to You
For Your arms are open wide
I am weary,
but I know Your touch restores my life
So I wait for you.... So I wait for You.....
I’m falling on my knees
Offering all of me
Jesus, You’re all this heart is living for.....
Wednesday, October 11, 2006
Five Factor Personality Profile
| Your Five Factor Personality Profile |
 Extroversion: You have medium extroversion. You're not the life of the party, but you do show up for the party. Sometimes you are full of energy and open to new social experiences. But you also need to hibernate and enjoy your "down time." Conscientiousness: You have high conscientiousness. Intelligent and reliable, you tend to succeed in life. Most things in your life are organized and planned well. But you borderline on being a total perfectionist. Agreeableness: You have medium agreeableness. You're generally a friendly and trusting person. But you also have a healthy dose of cynicism. You get along well with others, as long as they play fair. Neuroticism: You have low neuroticism. You are very emotionally stable and mentally together. Only the greatest setbacks upset you, and you bounce back quickly. Overall, you are typically calm and relaxed - making others feel secure. Openness to experience: Your openness to new experiences is high. In life, you tend to be an early adopter of all new things and ideas. You'll try almost anything interesting, and you're constantly pushing your own limits. A great connoisseir of art and beauty, you can find the positive side of almost anything. |
Wednesday, October 04, 2006
Back in October (I)
Took Airasia back, it was a quite hazzy and cloudy ride from labuan back to kl.
Suprise to know prayer meeting is on on tuesdays ;)
As usual after prayer meeting mamak stall. Phew.... just treasure very moment that i'm being back here. Catch up with life! :)
some naugthy pic(s) taken by AgnelSaturday, September 30, 2006
Nearly had a bad car accident... gosh!
Came back early from work today. Managed to have few good badminton game in a very well maintain badminton court with a bunch of good players; 6-8pm.
After taken my shower, uncle brawi decided to go to town to get some groceries. As usual drove him down town. driving along the way in turn to a dark corner road, out of no where a cat stoning right at the middle of the road. Just a few meters away, i skidded to avoid to run over the cat. Thank God~ there's no car next to my lane. if there's, might being knock off road down into the sea.
In flash of mind, thought a significant person in my life...........
Came back early from work today. Managed to have few good badminton game in a very well maintain badminton court with a bunch of good players; 6-8pm.
After taken my shower, uncle brawi decided to go to town to get some groceries. As usual drove him down town. driving along the way in turn to a dark corner road, out of no where a cat stoning right at the middle of the road. Just a few meters away, i skidded to avoid to run over the cat. Thank God~ there's no car next to my lane. if there's, might being knock off road down into the sea.
In flash of mind, thought a significant person in my life...........
Wednesday, September 06, 2006
Tips For Overcoming Procrastination
Do you frequently find yourself putting essential tasks off until tomorrow, later, or never instead of doing them today? If procrastination has worked its way into your life, it may be time to change the way you think about your tasks and goals and begin to utilize better ways of tackling those things you've been procrastinating on.
Friday, August 11, 2006
Ex-Colleagues
This was my last jungle tracking with my ex-colleague..... we were looking wild forest durians despite of jungle tracking. Unfortunately not even bearing any fruits as we had found the durian trees. We found clear river water and huge rocks all around though....
Thursday, August 10, 2006
The Greatest Advise by Anthony Robbins
ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
THREE. Don't spend all you have or sleep all you want.
FOUR. When you say, "I love you," mean it.
FIVE. When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.
EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dream. People who don't have dreams don't have anything to look forward to.
NINE. Love ! deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
TEN. In disagreements, fight fairly.
ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.
TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.
THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
FIFTEEN. Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson
SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and responsibility for all your actions.
EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a GREAT FRIENDSHIP.
NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
THREE. Don't spend all you have or sleep all you want.
FOUR. When you say, "I love you," mean it.
FIVE. When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.
EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dream. People who don't have dreams don't have anything to look forward to.
NINE. Love ! deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
TEN. In disagreements, fight fairly.
ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.
TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.
THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
FIFTEEN. Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson
SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and responsibility for all your actions.
EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a GREAT FRIENDSHIP.
NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
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